Exchange your hurt for blessings. A step-by-step approach to release hurt.
Think of a person or instance that is triggering a hurt feeling in you.
- Bring them to the feet of Jesus on the cross
- Soak them in Jesus’s blood (Jesus’ blood can clean any heart.)
- Forgive them in the name of Jesus (“forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sinned against us“)
- Handover your hurt emotion to Jesus and feel detached from it (Jesus’ sacrificial love on the cross can neutralize any negative energy. ‘You are HEALED by his wounds!’ 1 Peter 2:24)
- Accept them as they are (No one is perfect; everyone has flaws and has made mistakes)
- Be compassionate (you don’t know their state of mind when they behaved that way; bad behaviors usually come out of fear or from a need to self-protect. Give them the benefit of doubt – they might not have hurt you intentionally. Give them more time to become their best version.)
- See their good/great side. Do write 3 of their good attributes; recall one or more favors that you received from them. Be thankful for that. Add them to the list of attributes. (What would you have lost if they were not in your life!)
- Love them. Pray for them. Bless them. (This is the response suggested by Jesus when you deal with people who hurt you. Love removes fear. In the absence of fear, people tend to do good things because everyone has a need to feel connected, feel good and feel valued.)
- See them becoming better (you have already forgiven them, prayed for them and blessed them. See in faith that they are becoming their best version.)
- Thank God for sending them to your life as a blessing. Now onwards, see them as blessings. (recall their positive attributes and the favors you received. Affirm: <name>, you are a blessing.)
Feel the lightness in your body and mind. Feel joy and peace. Imagine, a block has been removed that was hindering God’s grace to flow to you. Visualize God is showering upon you His blessings.
Remember, you are most Christ-like, when you forgive the people who hurt you or when you love the unlovable. People are blessings in your life, even when they are not perfect or have opinions different from that of yours.
This is a great exchange made possible by Jesus Christ; you exchanged your hurt for His blessings!
Your forgiveness and love bring Glory to God. You are now entitled for joy, peace and abundance as a child of God. Moreover, forgiving helps you to move forward faster to your goals and life purpose.
Anybody else triggering negative vibes? Forgive each one of them, using the steps above.
Repeat this meditation daily until you are completely healed and those bad memories don’t have any emotional energy left to hurt you again. Rejoice in God’s love and His promises. See people as blessings.
Are you sure, your mind is completely free of any resentment and is filled with love? Then go and ask Jesus whatever blessings you need. Believe it is done.
നിങ്ങള് എന്നില് വസിക്കുകയും എന്റെ വാക്കുകള് നിങ്ങളില് നില നില്ക്കുകയും ചെയ്യുന്നെങ്കില് ഇഷ്ടമുള്ളതു ചോദിച്ചു കൊള്ളുക; നിങ്ങള്ക്കു ലഭിക്കും. (യോഹന്നാന് 15:7) | If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask for whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. (John 15:7)
(Forgiving doesn’t mean you need to accept their old hurting behaviors or live with abuses. It gives the starting point to restore relationships. Decide to resolve unmet needs, difference of opinions or conflicts at the earliest so that bitterness won’t build up.)
Affirmations
- “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” (Gandhiji)
- People having diff opinions are still my friends. I need them.
- People are blessings in my life, even when they are not perfect.
- We are all one, as a family, as children of God and as the body of Christ.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, you have been kind and forgiving towards me. May I be merciful as you are merciful. Free me from all bitterness and resentment that I may truly forgive from the heart those who have caused me injury or loss/grief.
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